4 steps on how to deal with a Drama Queen Mom
This time of year is welcoming lots of possibilities for miscommunications, misunderstandings and
lots of family drama.
Especially if you have a drama queen mom.
This is the time of year where she gets to “shine and thrive” and get everyone’s attention.
Many daughters complain that their mothers are acting out, being overly dramatic, exaggerating
everything and are just too much to handle.
If you find yourself after every drama with You Feeling;
Guilty, upset, drained and exhausted.
Being the one to always apologize.
Feeling angry, or invisible.
Then you have let your mother suck you into her dramatic stories. You must learn to separate
your mother’s mind from yours.
So how do we not play along and protect ourselves from
being dragged into another drama holiday scene?
First, we must understand that;
Creating drama is part of the human condition. We all have our little drama Queen inside of
us- it’s called the human brain.
When your mother is acting and lushes out, she is basically
experiencing a mind drama at loud.
If you follow me, you will know by now that emotions are caused by our thoughts.
So your mother’s drama is only a set of exaggerated thoughts in her mind that create an
extreme emotional response to a certain event or situation.
Her drama is created in her mind.
It has nothing to do with what you did or said. It has only to do with how she is choosing to think.
Her dramatic thoughts can lead to;
- Acting like everything is the end of the world.
- Being upset over silly things and lash out.
- Blaming you when things don’t go her way.
- Attention seeking – being loud and obnoxious.
- Being an emotional child- Throwing a temper tantrum and behaving inappropriately.
- A tendency to run to extremes.
- Turning every convo and problem around to make it about themselves.
- Constant whining.
- Creating competition and fights.
Don’t be tempted to try and change or fix her drama. By being upset with her drama youre
already creating a new drama. You only need to take care of you. Especially when she’s being
so toxic. Let her be dramatic and learn to protect yourself. Spend the energy on you rather on
changing her. You do that by following step 2.
Realize that your mother’s drama is only coming from her mind. A poor choice of exaggerated
thoughts. Her behavior has nothing to do with you! Observe her as a dry math problem, be a
student; curios rather on defense and taking her words personally.
Separate your mother’s thoughts from your own!
Be aware of what your mind is believing, what messages you internally accepted from your mother.
Being aware that whatever you’re feeling is because of your thoughts and not because of your mother’s
action. You decide what you want to think and believe and how you want to feel.
Anticipate your mother to be all dramatic. Don’t be surprised of another dramatic act, or hope for
her to change this time.
You have a Drama Quinn mom
That is your mother.
Remember that her acting like a child and being overly dramatic is only because of her dramatic
thoughts and not because your’e doing something wrong!
Check in with yourself;
Where are you being dramatic as well?
Where are you letting yourself act like her?