Making peace with your past self

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2018 is over.

It’s time to leave your past self behind.


Do you find yourself thinking of the last year and feeling defeated, ashamed, angry and full

of regrets?


If so then I want you to examine how you interpret your past. 

Look back and write down what happened this year.

Then write what you think about these events and what does it say about you?


Continue to ask;

What do you want to leave behind?

And what do you want to take with you?


It’s important to have a clean closer.

That is how you can let the old go and make room for the new.


Why is it important to examine how you interpret your past self?

Because what you think about your past self and the last year will affect what you

currently feel and do.


The only place the past exists is in your mind.

The past is over.

The future is in your imagination.


What you have in this present moment is your thoughts

ABOUT the past.

If These are negative, painful thoughts then you’ll feel negative emotions.

Not because of what happened in 2018 but because of what happens in your mind right now.


To help one of my clients to let her past go, I gave her an assignment.

I told her to make a list of all the things she is willing to forgive herself (or at least try).

These are one of the things she wrote;

  • I forgive myself for;
  • Allowing my mother to cross my boundaries or for being too scared to set them.
  • Letting her hurt my feelings and use me.
  • Not being able to speak up and belittling myself next to her.
  • Not saying no to her because I was too scared of her reaction
  • Not taking care of myself and my needs.


I encourage you to do the same.

Choose to forgive yourself and then make a conscious choice to let it all go and never look back.


Beating yourself up over the past year seems like a deserving and useful thing, but it’s not.

You can’t beat yourself into happiness.

You can choose how you want to think about your past self — about everything that happened

last year. You are allowed to think what you want.


You get to choose to think;

  • I did my best
  • I tried
  • It was always meant to happen this way
  • I’m human its okay
  • I’m not perfect but I’m 100% worthy of love


Start defining yourself by your future instead of defining yourself

from your past.

If you want this year to build your self-esteem, and not let your mother control your life,

then you need to take different actions, that means you need to think differently from your

past self.


To create change and to arrive at a different place in a year from now you want to think

deliberately about your future self.

So make a list; 

  • Who do you want to be in 2019?
  • How do you want your relationship with your mother to look like?
  • How do you want to feel in 2019?

And then find ways to become that!

Start with thinking thoughts you’ve never thought before, to create a life that you’ve never

created before.

You can’t go back.

The past set you up to be the person you are today.


Thank your past self for what she did and let her go.

The future you- is waiting for you to create her.

Much love



P.S.  It’s time to get excited about your future!

Turn your head around and start focusing on the road ahead.

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